Celebrity Hate

I used to be outspoken about how much I dislike certain celebrities. I didn’t like who I was when I was badmouthing these strangers. I worked to cut it out of my life and let me tell you it has been pretty great without it. 

It’s really easy to nitpick and judge the life of a celebrity because all kinds of details, true or otherwise, are out there to glean. What they wore, who they are dating, how they treated the restaurant staff, how they raise their kids, what they eat, how they run their brand, etc. You name it, you can probably find out about it. When access to all that information is freely available, it’s easy to feel like you actually know them, understand their life, and have the right to pass judgement. My goal is not to represent these individuals as blameless or perfect, but just remind you (and me) that they are people too. 

Let’s start with Kesha. By the way, she dropped the dollar sign from her name. I shared more than once in high school how obnoxious and stupid I thought the song “Tik Tok” was. To be honest, it still gets on my nerves a little and there are other Kesha songs I like way more. That was, at one point, the only song I knew by her and I decided that she was stupid, not creative, and just wanted to party. Now, I regret begin so outspoken about those things. Yes, Kesha does sing a lot about parties. But you know what, so do a lot of other musicians. She also does have a real voice, not just one auto tuned. She is a serious artist who has overcome serious struggles. She is an advocate for animal rights, she went to rehab for her struggle with an eating disorder, and sued her producer Dr. Luke for a variety of things including physical, emotional, sexual, and verbal abuse. Her boldness in confronting her abuser is honorable. My biggest turn around about how I feel about a celebrity occurred here, with how I feel about Kesha. My friend Nathan who took his own life loved Kesha and I often think of him when I hear her songs. Also, I firmly believe that “Blow” is one of the best party songs to ever exist and it is on my ‘must play’ list for the dance at my wedding. It builds and resolves wonderfully and it makes me want to DANCE. 

Miss Britney Spears. If there ever was a human who got ripped to shreds by the media, it’s Britney. Picture Britney over the years, from innocent young lady to over exposed sex icon, to broken and shaving her head publicly, to the come back queen she is today. Wow. She has come full circle. She went through an incredibly difficult time in front of everyone and there was this insane gawking at her and daily “Britney reports” about how she was acting out. In crisis, she did some crazy things and everyone saw it. How might things have gone differently if she didn’t have countless cameras in her face and people yelling at her and reporting every thing she said and did. When I think about what I want when I am in crisis, I think about quiet, space, and comfort. From what I can tell, Britney did not have a lot of these things. I am proud of (from what I can tell) how well she is doing today and I never want her to be a joke or the point of reference for how crazy someone is acting (a la: On a scale from 1 to Britney in 2007, how insane was your day?) She is a person. 

Miley. She has grown up in the spotlight much like Britney did. There’s a lot of things I could say about her and the image she puts out for people to see, but here’s the truth, I’ve never met her. She may have goals I don’t know about, but as a celebrity and a musician, it seems that one of her goals is to be noticed. She is really achieving her goal. People are curious about her, they want to know all the details of her latest antics, and people write articles about her. I think she was the most googled person in 2013! 

Kim Kardashian. Keeping Up with the Kardashians is in its 10th season. People really care about this family as a whole and about the individuals in the family. Kim was also highly googled in 2013. 

I think it’s impossible to fully understand what life is like for these women- all the money, all the fame, and all the pitfalls that come with it. 

I’m not saying all celebrities make good choices and are being misrepresented. What I am arguing is that it’s not worth being a loud mouth/gossip about the lives of strangers who live in limelight. I really had to ask myself about the need to know the details. If I think a certain celebrity is so stupid and does dumb things, why do I care so much about wanting to know every single detail of their life? Am I wanting to know the nitty gritty so that I have more to dish about them? Isn’t that straight up gossip? Is that what I want to be about? If you truly think a celebrity is terrible, stop googling them. Stop paying attention to them. Eventually if no one is interested in someone anymore, they lose their celebrity status. 

Birthday Weekend

hey folks, it's my birthday this weekend. Never before (that I can recall) have I been less excited about my birthday. It's not a "woe as me I am so old" thing, but rather a "I have a zillion things to do" thing and my birthday just kind of drifted to the back of my head. So maybe that does mean I'm getting old.
Anyway, I am turning 22 (cue the T-Swift) which is cool. I like doubles and I like even numbers and I like not being 21 anymore because there's this expectation to be wild and crazy- the wildest thing I do is eat too much ice cream and it is wild because I'm lactose intolerant. My fiancée is coming to town which is the thing I'm most excited about.
That's right, I'm engaged! It's very exciting. Every once in a while, I day dream about our wedding day and how cool that is going to be. We already have so much planned- I have my dress, we have our deposit down on the venue for ceremony and reception, the boys all have their suits (alterations needed), I have the suits picked out for all my bridesmaids, and we booked a DJ. Andrew and I are choosing a save-the-date this weekend and we can send those out soon. In other exciting news, my (future) sister in law had her second baby and he is doing better than they were anticipating (praise God) and my sister is going to have her baby soon! Also I'm graduating in May but that feels so far away which is painstaking but also good because I have SO much crap to do before then.
Not being super excited about my birthday is weird because I love birthdays. How cool that you get a day for you (and whoever else was born that day)? A fellow blogger posted a thing for her birthday and I am going to borrow it. You can read Courtney's list here.

4 names people call me other than my real name:
- Beth Annie
- Bee (like Queen Bee)
- BG
- Money Bags

4 jobs I've had:
- Crewgirl. Your basic camp grunt, doing dishes, serving meals, cleaning toilets, feeding kittens, watering plants, setting tables, etc.
- Summer secretary
- Camp counselor
- Program host. Overseer of counselors and event runner

Four movies you've watched more than once:
- Good Will Hunting
- The Truman Show
- The Fighter
- It's Kind of a Funny Story

Four books I'd recommend:
- The Last Segregated Hour: The Memphis Kneel-Ins and the Campaign for Southern Church Desegregation by Stephen R Haynes
- To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee
- Yes Please by Amy Poehler
- 14,000 Things to Be Happy About by Barbara Ann Kipfer

Four places I've lived:
- McLeod, MT at this beautiful place
- New Auburn, WI at this beautiful place
- Hainesville, IL
- Indiana Wesleyan University

Four places I'd rather be right now:
- Seeing a show at the Marriott Lincolnshire
- On a lido deck of a cruise ship
- Snuggled up next to my fiancée (is that too cheesy? You can roll your eyes. I'll allow it.)
- On a hike at Grandad's Bluff (La Crosse, WI) or Steeple (McLeod, MT)

4 (ok 6) things I don't eat:
- Applesauce
- Yogurt
- Cottage cheese (are you sensing a texture trend?)
- Bananas
- Pumpkin anything
- Sweet potato anything

4 of my favorite foods:
- Parmesan garlic boneless buffalo wings from BWW
- Pringles
- Bratwurst with sour kraut
- Chik Fil A sandwich with pickles. YUM. I drive past a Chik Fil A every single day. It's a struggle.

4 things I am looking forward to this year:
- 1st Christmas with my then-to-be husband
- Being an auntie
- Being a college graduate
- My wedding! (our. our wedding. I say 'my' a lot)

4 things I'm always saying:
- Shootie. It's more distinguishable from it's fouler counterpart and it's an "aww that's too bad!" that's not overplayed.
- Blessings. I say it as a thank you, and sometimes I say "blessings, thank you."
- Hey cutie. I say it to Andrew, I say it to dogs, I sometimes say it to friends. Once I said it to a dog but didn't say anything to their owner and afterwards I was like "oh shoot, they totally thought I was talking to them." whoops.
- A DOG! / Puppy!! It happens almost every time I see a dog. I love them. They're so. stinking. cute. always. I love old dogs and young dogs and big dogs and (almost) every tiny dog. I want to be their friend.

College Help Part 4/4

This is the final section of college help from one particular brainstorm session. Pass along these tips to people who may like them.

10. See if you can find a house. Someone who lives nearby, a family at your local church who will have you over, some place that is a home with a mailing address and a couch where you can hang if dorm life is overwhelming or stinky. It could happen. If the house has a dog, all the better in my opinion. It’s weird how much you miss house stuff when you live in a dorm. 

11. Do your thing. You might not know what that is. Now is the time to figure it out. By that I mean that the window is open, but don’t jump through it if you’re not ready. Try stuff out because maybe you are the 6AM run, shower, go to class girl. Maybe you’re the girl who camps out at the table Monday night and does her homework for the week. Maybe you’re going to be the “big man on campus” as it were who everyone knows. Develop an identity and allow it to change. If you do the 6 AM run thing once and never do that again, well then okay. If you love that, then keep doing it. 

     11a. Your morning routine will make or break you. If you want coffee and a bagel for your 8AM class, you better get to the coffee shop before 7:56 if you’re interested in being on time to class. Maybe that’s not super important to you. Try brewing coffee in your room if your dorm allows and your roommates and your pocket book (to people use those, is that a thing?) will thank you. I got a used mini fridge from friends who had graduated and it was great to have the option of storing cheese sticks or other snacks in there. If you’re cool with rolling out of bed and into class, then don’t stress that everyone else is getting ready and looking nice. If you want that, then make that your jam. If you hate being late, then plan ahead. If you like eating breakfast, plan ahead. If you love being late and hate breakfast food, you should still think about setting an alarm. 

     11b. Study habits. If you’re like me, you rarely studied in high school. By study, I mean “hey that test is Wednesday so Monday and Tuesday I am going to review the material by re-reading my notes, taking new notes on the text, quizzing myself, writing flashcards, etc.” I did do that occasionally, but not consistently. When I showed up at college, I didn’t really know how to do that. I figured I could just listen in class and succeed. Sometimes that works but not always. If you don’t know how to study, you gotta try some stuff. Be realistic about what is working and what is not working. Study with other people, study alone, study in silence, study to music, write it down 12 times, say it out loud, make up a song. Spend your time on things you don’t know. When it comes to test time, trust your gut. If you second guess yourself and you did have the right answer but you erased it, you will be bummed. 

12. Finally, safety. I have attended two colleges, both private, Christian universities and neither of them was incident free. Violence happens everywhere, but it definitively more likely to happen in certain places to certain people. If you are going for a run, tell someone where you are going and when you expect to be back. Go with someone on that run. Walk in well-lit areas. I never know if it’s better advice to be talking to someone on the phone while you walk back to your dorm because then if you were attacked you could scream and that person would hear you, or to not be on your phone because then all your attention is on your surroundings. If someone says “I’ll text you when I get there” and they don’t, call them. If you know how to use it and feel comfortable, carry pepper spray. Be willing to call campus police to pick you up. I never did it but I heard it happens. If you are consuming alcohol, have a sober buddy who has your best interest at heart and is dedicated to getting home safely. It’s a tough balance between being constantly terrified and never considering that there may be danger. Again, trust your gut. If you have a bad feeling about the dude standing by the door, go out a different door. If the only person in the elevator gives you the creeps, wait for the elevator to take them to their stop before you call it again. Don’t let the desire to be considered polite put you in danger. If you have a bad feeling, don’t ignore it.

Whew! I hope some or all of those tips are helpful. 

I don’t love saying “do this” “don’t do this” because you’re an adult and can make your own decisions, but it’s more concise than saying “if you want to, you can do this thing." My apologies if that bothered you throughout these tips. It kind of bothered me while I wrote it.